Focusing on My Brother

I have learned in the last week that the loss of a brother or sister starts a tolling in the heart.  I am not ready to be the "older generation".  I don't want to hear a doctor say "we will manage..." instead of "we will fix...".  My brother's death was a good death as far as finality goes.  He did not suffer a lingering decline.  His cancer roared up and overcame him.  Now I am working on my three minutes at his life celebration next Saturday.  How do you condense a lifetime of love and caring into three minutes?  Some of you know because you have been there.  Soon I will know and be ready to help others.